Lake Michigan and the Lighthouse on the Grand Haven pier I feel is a love story of the highest order. I have learned a lesson from these two and would like to dispense this lesson into your life.
The lesson comes from the idea that we are always trying to change each other it would seem when we are in a relationship. The woman wants the man to act more like a woman, a man wants a woman to do things and act in a manner like a man. But, what you get is two of the same. And in the world of magnets, you don’t get attraction when you have the same things. It is the polarities that attract each other. A positive and a negative pole will attract each other. But moving on.
I think it is essential we understand the differences between Lake Michigan and the Lighthouse.
Here is what you need to know, Lake Michigan is a little wild, unpredictable and sometimes dangerous. The waters can change rather quickly and without warning. Storms and rain and lightening can come out of nowhere. Now apart from the bad, Lake Michigan also supplies plenty of enjoyment. On the hot days it invites people into its cool waters, and provides fun. It gives beauty like no other can. All the while, the lake is free, and just flows with life. It’s waves are calming and being in it’s presence soothes the soul. And at the coming of night, Lake Michigan can provide unrivaled beauty.
Now consider how the Lighthouse is different: It is stable, and steady. It is strong through the storm, and doesn’t respond to the rain and the thunder any more than necessary. It provides guidance and is a signal to the seas that it is a safe haven and can be trusted in the darkest hours and in the storms. The environment does not break it’s strength. The lighthouse is structured and has a task at hand to do, and does it.
I think Lake Michigan is a great picture of a woman, and the Lighthouse is a great picture of man. As well, a great picture of a man and a woman who accept each other for who they are, and roll with it. This idea has helped me with understanding women. What they like, what they don’t like and why I don’t get along with certain types of women. This is a lesson I wish I would of learned 10 years ago, it would of made life easier, if not just make it make more sense.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying women are these out of control– completely emotional beings. I’m just saying their nature is vastly different then a man’s. They are more free, they want to love and not be weighed down by tasks and structure like the lighthouse, needing to be always relied upon to do task and to make and accomplish plans. Now they can be goal oriented, but again, I don’t think it is their nature. Now, in a book I read, (and this is not the first time I have heard an idea similar to this). There is an idea that women want to love, they use the word love more then men, they just seem like they are free to love, love, love and love.
Moving on, men, they are often more task oriented and structured, they like goals and to accomplish the work that are at hand. They tend to be emotionally strong, or should be emotionally strong. Not like these super emotional guys that are permeating the media. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying a guy can’t have moments of emotion. But, just think of a man like this: Let’s say a man is like a boat, how would he do with Lake Michigan? He would be tossed and turned by the waves, completely susceptible to the moods of the water, and controlled by them. Is that the kind of man a woman wants? One that is more emotional then her? Or is swayed by her moods? She want a man to provide strength, and guidance so she can be free to flow and love.
With that said, next term: Polarity. Polarity is what attracts a man and a woman. The bigger the difference the stronger the connection. Again, think of a magnet. North and south poles attract. A woman who flows and is less structured and loves freely, will attract a man who is very structured and driven. Cause they will balance. Think of acid and base, the bigger the difference the bigger the reaction.
Wrapping this up. what I have learned is this: I don’t try to change a woman’s emotional side, nor am I trying to be more emotional to make her like me. I accept them for who they are. They are different, with different thought processes, mindsets, behaviors and ways they handle things. I just stay calm, cool and collected, not letting the female storm crumble the lighthouse. This simple idea has made so much sense: Women are more emotional, and flow in life and the moment, men need to be strong through it, and provide safety.
For me, I have noticed there is a certain kind women I get along with a lot better then others, those who tend to be more feminine in nature. Here is why, I’m a masculine kind of guy. Unfortunately, I used the think women liked emotional guys. They don’t. So, I changed. Life got better.
I do think there are jobs that can turn women more masculine, and ones that aid in them keeping a feminine essence. Jobs that are more caring and nurturing like a nurse, or a stay at home mom, I think lend aid to that. But jobs that are more authoritative, or managerial I think can cause a woman to be a bit more masculine.