Phenomenal Documentary on Food: Hungry for Change

Here I am, doing some more writing on food, health and weight loss. Why? Probably because I have struggled with weight my whole life, and am finally getting a grasp on it, and loosing it and keeping it off. I’m doing it the healthy way, the right way. But, it has taken some time and a lot of brain reprogramming, relearning food, and learning how to eat the correct foods. It has also made me rethink my relationship to food. Cause, I would eat for the wrong reasons.

You can loose weight, and here is the thing, we can do it, you can do it, the weight can be lost, you can look better and above that, feel better. I mean, for real, you can feel fantastic. I know I do, I feel so good it is crazy, I feel so good, I’m actually getting used to it, cause I would feel like I have done something wrong to feel that good. Ha! But no, I think we should feel that good all the time.

So, here is what I want to pass on to you right now.

I just finished watching the video Hungry for Change, and it was great. It touched on some many things in relation to food and weight loss, things I think we know, but don’t really know. So, it is good to hear people elaborate on them. For example, there was a really powerful quote that one of the people said in it, and it was “Visualization is the language that can talk to your subconscious.” Powerful, I know. It is basically meditating. We should visualize what we want to look like in order to reprogram our subconscious. It also went through food and what it does and how it affects the body. It was a great overview of health and how food is so essential in our lives and how it can affect us so much. I highly recommend you all watch it.

Also read on the Ancient Secret to Weight Loss Here.

http://thoughtshaveconsequences.com/learn-the-ancient-secrets-to-weight-loss/

The 48 Laws of Power; Law 18: DO NOT BUILD FORTRESSES TO PROTECT YOURSELF–ISOLATION IS DANGEROUS

I have been going through the book, The 48 Laws Of Power, by Robert Greene, because I feel it has a lot to offer that is good. But, I also want to go through it because I also feel there is a lot of bad that this book offers. Though, interestingly I have heard the author blur the line on what is good and bad in interviews, there is a clear line that God has laid. The author does do a good job of showing the tactics of power people use, too. I think that is his main point of the book.

So, just to let you know, there is some bad, ugly, evil tactics in the book that can be used but shouldn’t be. But, the book is worth reading for 2 reasons, one, it is a great and fascinating read, that will give you some good skills to use in life when tempered with the truth of the Bible. Two, it lets a person know there are evil people out there who will do anything to have power, and the book exposes some of the things people do to have power. With that being said, understand this: Thoughts are dangerous, and they precede ideas, and those ideas can have consequences, good or bad. With anything, weigh the concepts on the scale of the Bible. Let’s begin.

The law that is about to be reviewed is a really good one. For one, it is practical, and also can be linked Biblically very well. Two, if the law is not followed in the practical sense, it is dangerous for people who isolate themselves. In this post we are going to examine the law and then weigh it and tie it with the Bible.

It is Law 18 DO NOT BUILD FORTRESSES TO PROTECT YOURSELF–ISOLATION IS DANGEROUS. It is one of the shorter laws, but very important. And I think it is one that is very applicable in the life of a Christian. Judgment:

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere–everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers that it protects you from–it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people, find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

“But isolation exposes you to more dangers that it protects you from[.]” Let’s talk about what isolation is not, I don’t think it is referring to spending a week alone in the woods, if that is what you like doing. But spending, months and months in the woods alone. Well, I think that turns dangerous for a person. Furthermore, I think if a person spends considerable time with themselves and only a couple other people or one, that is dangerous isolation. Your mind will take you places, that are usually unreasonable to other people. And it makes sense, we fight a spiritual war as well, and as people, moreover Christians, we need others, other to buffet us, help us, talk to and encourage us. If we don’t have that, we are left to all kinds of craziness.

Moving on, I came across an interesting article I found on the New Yorkers website, and it gives some of the effects isolation has on people:

He missed people terribly, especially his fiancée and his family. He was despondent and depressed. Then, with time, he began to feel something more. He felt himself disintegrating. It was as if his brain were grinding down. A month into his confinement, he recalled in his memoir, “The mind is a blank. Jesus, I always thought I was smart. Where are all the things I learned, the books I read, the poems I memorized? There’s nothing there, just a formless, gray-black misery. My mind’s gone dead. God, help me.”

He was stiff from lying in bed day and night, yet tired all the time. He dozed off and on constantly, sleeping twelve hours a day. He craved activity of almost any kind. He would watch the daylight wax and wane on the ceiling, or roaches creep slowly up the wall. He had a Bible and tried to read, but he often found that he lacked the concentration to do so. He observed himself becoming neurotically possessive about his little space, at times putting his life in jeopardy by flying into a rage if a guard happened to step on his bed. He brooded incessantly, thinking back on all the mistakes he’d made in life, his regrets, his offenses against God and family.

His captors moved him every few months. For unpredictable stretches of time, he was granted the salvation of a companion—sometimes he shared a cell with as many as four other hostages—and he noticed that his thinking recovered rapidly when this occurred. He could read and concentrate longer, avoid hallucinations, and better control his emotions. “I would rather have had the worst companion than no companion at all,” he noted.

In September, 1986, after several months of sharing a cell with another hostage, Anderson was, for no apparent reason, returned to solitary confinement, this time in a six-by-six-foot cell, with no windows, and light from only a flickering fluorescent lamp in an outside corridor. The guards refused to say how long he would be there. After a few weeks, he felt his mind slipping away again.

“I find myself trembling sometimes for no reason,” he wrote. “I’m afraid I’m beginning to lose my mind, to lose control completely.”

One day, three years into his ordeal, he snapped. He walked over to a wall and began beating his forehead against it, dozens of times. His head was smashed and bleeding before the guards were able to stop him.

Some hostages fared worse. Anderson told the story of Frank Reed, a fifty-four-year-old American private-school director who was taken hostage and held in solitary confinement for four months before being put in with Anderson. By then, Reed had become severely withdrawn. He lay motionless for hours facing a wall, semi-catatonic. He could not follow the guards’ simplest instructions. This invited abuse from them, in much the same way that once isolated rhesus monkeys seemed to invite abuse from the colony. Released after three and a half years, Reed ultimately required admission to a psychiatric hospital.

“It’s an awful thing, solitary,” John McCain wrote of his five and a half years as a prisoner of war in Vietnam—more than two years of it spent in isolation in a fifteen-by-fifteen-foot cell, unable to communicate with other P.O.W.s except by tap code, secreted notes, or by speaking into an enamel cup pressed against the wall. “It crushes your spirit and weakens your resistance more effectively than any other form of mistreatment.” And this comes from a man who was beaten regularly; denied adequate medical treatment for two broken arms, a broken leg, and chronic dysentery; and tortured to the point of having an arm broken again. A U.S. military study of almost a hundred and fifty naval aviators returned from imprisonment in Vietnam, many of whom were treated even worse than McCain, reported that they found social isolation to be as torturous and agonizing as any physical abuse they suffered.

And what happened to them was physical. EEG studies going back to the nineteen-sixties have shown diffuse slowing of brain waves in prisoners after a week or more of solitary confinement. In 1992, fifty-seven prisoners of war, released after an average of six months in detention camps in the former Yugoslavia, were examined using EEG-like tests. The recordings revealed brain abnormalities months afterward; the most severe were found in prisoners who had endured either head trauma sufficient to render them unconscious or, yes, solitary confinement. Without sustained social interaction, the human brain may become as impaired as one that has incurred a traumatic injury.

On December 4, 1991, Terry Anderson was released from captivity. He had been the last and the longest-held American hostage in Lebanon. I spoke to Keron Fletcher, a former British military psychiatrist who had been on the receiving team for Anderson and many other hostages, and followed them for years afterward. Initially, Fletcher said, everyone experiences the pure elation of being able to see and talk to people again, especially family and friends. They can’t get enough of other people, and talk almost non-stop for hours. They are optimistic and hopeful. But, afterward, normal sleeping and eating patterns prove difficult to reëstablish. Some have lost their sense of time. For weeks, they have trouble managing the sensations and emotional complexities of their freedom (Gawande, 2009).

So, this is a extreme case of isolation, but nonetheless, isolation is dangerous. We do much better with people. It is how God designed us.

IN wrapping this up, I remember seeing a show on solitary confinement for prisoners. Here is the thing, I’m not sure who was sicker, the people leaving the prisoner in solitary confinement for days and days on end, or the prisoner in solitary confinement.

Now it should be easy for any Christian to see how that can apply to their life. But for those who don’t know about the Bible, Jesus, and God. Let me help.

It makes you an easy target for the devil. Left alone to our own selves, we can come up with all kinds of thoughts and or ideas that are not sane. Learn the lesson: Don’t isolate yourself.

 

 

Check out other laws we review from the book here:

http://thoughtshaveconsequences.com/category/book-review/the-48-laws-of-power-book-review/

Reference:

Gawande, Atul. The New Yorker . N.p., Mar. 2009. Web. 19 Apr. 2014. <http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2009/03/30/090330fa_fact_gawande#ixzz2IPiVyMTW>.

Learn The Ancient Secret To Weight Loss: I lost 30 plus doing it!

Disclaimer below.

So, I have learned the ancient secret to weight loss, a secret lost long ago with the advent of the TV Dinner, online dating, instant coffee, and fast food. This secret has dramatically improved my looks, and how clothes fit. It has also improved my health, and energy level, and even has increased my testosterone levels, though I guess I have not verified it, just assuming it, and I’m under a pretty good assumption it has if you know what I mean! Also, with this secret, in less then five months I was able to drop 30 plus pounds, and look a lot better. So, let’s begin with what it is and talk about the benefits.

What is the Ancient Secret?

This secret is probably synonymous with common sense, but alludes most of our Big Mac, Burger King, and Wendy’s society. It escapes our grasp because of the speed at which we live our lives. Cause who wants to work when you can hang with Burger King? I mean, he is way cooler then Gym? Here it is, the Ancient Secret:

 

HARD WORK, and it can be summed up like this:

Put down the fork and eat less.

Eat healthier foods.

Exercise. Period.

Ancient, I know, who has time for this? I mean really, the going to the gym, and pumping iron with all the super douches there, looking in the mirror? And who has time to eat healthy, when really, the convenience of the great Mexican restaurant Taco Bell is open late and is fast, cheap and easy? Then for real, why put the fork down when you can buy Hyrdoxycut? But let me tell you why you should make time for all these things and put them all into effect right now in your life.

One, eat healthier, because you will feel better by what you eat. I can’t tell you how related my moods and the foods I eat are. Try me, instead of eating the horrible diet you consume everyday, buy some healthy foods and try it for 5 days. I’m very certain you will feel better, and have a better look on life, and will have more energy and not feel depressed. Thought: I also think the devil uses food to bring us down. Why think about it, what kind of food do you want to eat when you have had a hell-of-a-day? Crappy foods, also know as comfort foods. I love to grab ice-cream when the day has gone all wrong, and its like, I Like It, but have move feeling then that, so I Gotta Have It. Then, I love to eat a bag of Sour Patch Kids when my deals have fallen apart. To stop at Taco Bell and get a couple of burritos when I’m depressed. I do it cause it gives me that momentary pleasure. But, what I have also learned is that is depresses me that much more. I’m not say never eat these things, but think about it. Does Cold Stone warm your heart when you are depressed? Does Wendy help lift your spirit when you are down? I encourage not going to them for comfort. Does the Sour Patch Kids really sweeten your awful day? No. But this is something I’m learning this as well.

I also found, when I eat the right foods, I have more energy. It’s easier to wake up in the morning, too. I don’t feel nearly as lethargic. That alone, is worth it, think about it, you can possibly get 7 more hours a weak back by eating healthier cause you don’t take so long to get going.

Now, I could go into the science of why this actually all works, but there is a lot of good resources  out there and I will post some below. Or just google it.

Moving on, step two, eat less or consume less calories. I think eating the right foods and eating less go hand in hand. Cause think about, the right foods fill you up quicker, and you are going to consume less calories. (Because, for example, eating 4 ounces of spinach vs. 4 ounces ice cream, one is less caloric.) But you will find yourself eating more, can you really over eat on negative calorie celery? So what kind of foods do you eat? I think it is easier to ask what do you stay away from? I would say stay away from fast food, lots of meat, dairy, and sweets. Stay away from white flour, white sugar, salt, and anything fried. I think from there you will be doing a lot better. Other things to stay away from: Sodium, processed food, and anything devoid of any nutritional value. Now, at first this will be hard (it’s the American Diet), cause it is basically restricting and restructuring your diet, but if I can get the hang of it, you can!

“So, what should I eat?” you may ask. Well, fresh fruits and vegetables, eggs, meat in moderation, and fish. As well as, super foods, and whole grains. It is easy, and you will also find yourself craving these foods, after awhile. One thing I got to help me is a Ninja Blender to make green smoothies. I do it pretty much once a day, or more and love it. They are not that expensive and I find them to be very reliable. There are other blenders to check out, like the Vitamix but this one has been my favorite. When I make the smoothies, I put anything from Kale and Spinach, lemon, and super foods in it. Then one of the stitches to my green smoothie is Wheat Grass I have been doing Coconut Oil lately, and have also put all kinds of berries and avocado in it. I put anything I have on hand pretty much.

Now, step three, work out. Go to the gym, sign up, and start working out. Do it.  You will feel better, have more energy, and loose weight. Also, I have found when I work out, I feel more motivated to conquer the world. I also believe working out produces more testosterone in your body, which then in turn makes you less anxious and prone to worry, if I remember he science behind it, which I think it do. I have also seen a huge increase in my sex drive, which kind of sucks cause I live this Christian life thing, and sex drive is already a problem. Haha. But, really, I feel like I can go with less sleep with and have more energy in my day which allows me to get more done in my day. Then get this for you married men having certain problems with certain appendages of the body, I remember seeing something on a movie or program about how cholesterol, the stuff that I think clogs the veins, can be reduced with better health. I also remember, that if the veins are clogged it can affect errections, cause again, common sense, blood flows to all the body, and if the appendages that need blood are clogged, it may cause some unwanted troubles in the marriage bed. But, again you can find the science on that.

With putting these three thing into effect in my life, I have dropped over 30 pounds, and wake up with so much more energy, so much!!!! and even sleep less. Sometimes I have so much energy at work I can’t sit still. I now crave going to the gym or running because my body loves it. I even turn on music sometimes right when I get up, cause I am PUMPED!!! It is a good thing to have.

Now you will spend a little money on these things, but I think it will be well worth it, cause of the energy you get and need of less sleep you require will be well worth it. So, get this, I actually get more done in a day because of what I have shared, which equal more productivity.

So, was what I shared a secret? No, haha, it is common sense. But now in life it seems common sense is the secrets lost long ago that made life better.

Watch Tony On Health And Going Green:

Wheatgrass:

A  Great Blender To Help You On Your Health Journey!

Another One!

 

Remember: In Moderation!

Great Program That Helped Me:

 

Disclaimer: While this weight loss secret has worked for me, it is your responsibility to take into account I’m not a medical professional, and any new diet plans should be checked with your physician, to see if they work for you. Or if you opt not to check with a physician, all the information your enact in your life is solely on your head, and I’m not responsible for the outcomes of what you do.  ;)

Life is like a mystery, do you have the clues to figure it out?

One night as I was laying in bed passing from one consciousness to another, I had a thought: Life is like a mystery and different perspectives are like clues. It was a profound thought, and I made note of it before I fell asleep, cause, in the morning I could not remember it. But let me relay this thought in story form.

Let’s say you are in a series of relationships that have failed, or not produced the results you wanted. And now you are faced with two choices, one you can continue to do what you do and think you will have different results, which is insanity. Or… Or, you can get other perspectives from God, people, books and other outside sources. And why would you do that? Cause you are stuck in a mystery called failed relationships, and the clues that you have, have not found the men who killed Mr. Mustard, another name for your failed relationships.

So what do you do? Get other perspectives or clues to the mystery.

See, getting other perspectives could hold the clue or clues you need to figure this mystery, and put the men, Ego, Pride, and Mr. Douche away who killed Mr. Mustard. See your ego, pride and doucheness is probably what is holding you back in so many different areas of your life, they kill Mr. Mustard frequently.

Here is how to get clues: Humble yourself and start learning that there are smarter people out there who can give you different perspectives that can solve this mystery called life. Because life encompasses all of you. So, in that breath, it would behoove you to put your listening ears on, shutting your mouth, reading, and learning, cause you are not always right.

This stuff is applicable for your work, your driving, how you play golf, music and whatever else you continually suck at. So you name it. Understand: There are smarter people out there then you, who can give you a clue, a different perspective that can help you in that area of your life.

Here is another thing to do, listen to people when they talk to you, they are a great source for clues. I have a friend who for whatever reason loves to tell me what I do wrong, does it feel good to hear it? No. but is it a different perspective of myself I can’t see? Yes. Is she sometimes right in what she says? Absolutely. So what do I do, I listen, and apply wisdom. So, when someone tells you something about yourself that is wrong or sees something you don’t see, thank them, they may have just improved your life. Also, my brother told me a couple of things that really pissed me off once, but after really examining them, myself and then being in communication with God, my brother was right. He has made my life better. I could of brushed him off though and thought, what a douche he was, but that would of been pride and ego, killing Mr. Mustard. So, when people correct you, be gracious to them, hear what they say and don’t make them pay for correcting you. Maybe what they say is over the top, or absolutely wrong, weigh it, and think it over. But listen, and try not to make them pay for saying it. There is a good chance there is some truth in what was said. Please: Don’t take this as you just lay down and let people verbally beat you up. Use discernment.

Another great place to get other perspectives is from books, Youtube, sermons, lectures, and whatever else media that can communicate to you.

Then above all, ask God for clues, and then go to God with the clues you get, and always be in relationship with Him. Know this: He is the best source to tell you about yourself.

In closing, when people give you these clues, take them to God and ask Him to show you how to get better, let God work in your life, and show you the deep things. God is good. He has shown me so much. Humble yourself through reading the Bible, prayer, and fasting.

Be smart enough to know you are just not that smart.

 

Books to help you figure out life so you can win, use discernment when reading and the Bible as your filter, not all information is good (I have read most of these books, too or in the process of reading):

Faced with a failure? How not to respond like a loser.

So, just recently I was faced with a failure, and to say the least I’m a little frustrated. See, I’m in a sales job, and I just lost a client and a large potential paycheck and worked very hard in the hopes of it. And consequentially, all kinds of thoughts are going through my head. I want to basically pass the buck off on my client and blame them for the failure. But is that how a winner thinks? Does a winner bitch, moan, wine and complain cause things did not happen his way? Does he blame those around him? No. I think a winner will feel down, and probably have moments of doing all those things. I did. But I think a winner will say, to quote one of my favorite people, Brian Tracy, “I am responsible.” And accept the failure, and take it upon himself.

See, the easy thing is to say it is not your fault, but when you say “I am responsible.” It causes you to look deep inside and reflect. To ponder what went wrong. So, when you fail, first of all, don’t think of it as necessarily a “failure,” but undesirable results. You only really feel when you give up. Then two, I know it is cliche, but it is a learning experience. When you win, how often do you really go deep in your being and look at the win? So, really dig deep and ask yourself why it went wrong. For example, I had a relationship fall to pieces, and I was well, pissed. But it forced me to look deep into myself, and really discover my faults and flaws. Because of it, I did so much growing and learning, and bettering myself that I want to thank that person for what happened, haha, ironic.

So with these thoughts above, as I was pumping iron in the less then happy state I was in. I made a choice that instead of blame my clients, I’m going to blame my self, and learn from the experience.

I started asking myself some questions to get the gears going:

What are some of the things that were out of my control? My age, my experience (at the moment), my car/socio economic status (though these will improve with time).

Then more important what are some of the things I could change and are in my control? How much I knew the area, I could of been more knowledgeable, I can work harder. I can use this to get better.

Then moving on from there, I will most likely journal some questions and talk to God about the whole situation. Here is what my question time may look like.

Questions I ask myself will go like this:

-What happened? I lost a client.

-Why? Cause of my experience.

-Is that it? No

-What else? I think there is something in my heart that is holding me back.

-What? I think I feel outclassed, out of my socio economic status, and looked down on.

-Should you feel like that? Yes and no.

-Are those feeling real or perception? Both

-Can you change that? Yes

-How? Do heart work. Be more confident, and get a new car.

So, you get the point, that is one of the things I do. It helps me to really check my self, and get down and dirty on myself. It also has allowed me to change a lot of things in my life cause I can get to the root of the problem, and I’m finding the root is usually in my heart and not external.

The last thing, and the most important thing failure does, is it reminds me God is my ultimate source, and forces me to humble myself before Him. And realize, either He has this bitch (that is my term) under control, or I’m screwed. I have to have total dependence on Him, go to Him for guidance.

 

 

 

Displacement Theory and Christianity

I have been pondering this thought now for sometime, and am ready to put my thoughts down. The thought that I’ve been sitting on is the idea of Displacement Theory. I heard Dave Ramsey talk about it, and use the analogy I’m about to give you, but I can’t remember what he exactly related it to. Something with money. But in this post I’m going to relate it to Faith, and your relationship with Jesus.

First off, I just became acutely aware of this theory recently. I did a bit of a fast and was really reading a lot of Bible and connecting with God, and then it hit me, how close I felt to God and how much the things of the world did not intrigue me. Why is it like that? Well let me give you the analogy and show you why.

Let’s say you drink green smoothies as I do, you put in your kale, wheatgrass powder, and chai and flax seed mix with Goji berries. Then you throw in your pomegranate juice and fresh squeezed lemon. And whatever else suites your pallet, after that, zip it up and drink. Hopefully it doesn’t taste so bad you have to plug your noise, which I have done before. Now, three options are before you, one, you put the glass in the sink and leave it there dirty. Two, you fill the glass with a little water, but it is still in essence dirty. Or three, put the glass in the sink, run the water in it till it displaces the green smoothie and is now clean and pure.

That is how I think of Displacement Theory option three, you are displacing part A with part B until it completely removes part A, and you are left with part B.

So, how does that work with Faith and Christianity? Let me show you. If I want to live a more pure life, it is so much harder to discipline myself to just not go after the lusts of the world. But, I find it easier and what works more efficiently, to just fill my self with the Word of God, and connect, and be filled with the Holy Spirit, until it displaces those unGodly desires. I think so many of us miss that. I think so many preachers fail to preach that along with the teachers who fail to teach that.

So in this fast I was doing, I really realized the displacement. I became aware of how great God is, and how awesome He really is, and how the things of the world were not awesome, not at all. But what I was doing is displacing my unholy desires for desires that fit in with God’s desires.

Wrapping this up, that is my encouragement to you, instead of trying to live this super disciplined life, just let Christ live through you, and displace all the shiftiness with God’s goodness.

Life Lesson: Don’t Preface

I will try to make this short, so you can read it, ponder it, and put it into action right now. So the thought that I have been working and thinking on for a while is one that has helped me in my day to day life. I also think people who have power and confidence do this as well. Here is the thought: when you talk to people, or give a speech, don’t preface what you say to people. I’m not saying not to ever. But as a general rule, and specifically with weird prefaces. So, I will now show you what I’m talking about.

Beginning: Not prefacing statements. For me this is where I’m at, I’m really trying not or am just not prefacing my statements anymore. See, before I would make my point on something, I would preface it with something stupid, like this, “Now, this might be crazy to you, but…” Or, “I know this may sound weird, but why don’t we…” Anything like that, I could possibly say. Why did I do that? Well that is another conversation that has to do with other things I have learned to overcome. But either way, whatever the reason it was done, it sucked.

Moving on, this is what happened to change this for me: A gentleman I had a work meeting with, said to me something like this, “Don’t preface what you say before you say it.” Then I think he said something like, “It causes you to loose credibility and makes you look silly, when you preface things with, ‘this may sound weird.’” Wow, a light bulb went off for me, and I’ve been working to change it.

Secondly, here why you don’t want to preface your stuff with weird prefaces or in general. When you preface the things you say, it does cause you to loose credibility and does make you sound silly if you were prefacing with things like I was. I also think it puts defenses up in peoples minds when you do particularly  odd prefaces. Like if you say, “I know you are gonna disagree with this, but…” I think a person is setting people up to be defensive. It is like if you want to knock someone out, you don’t tell them, “I’m gonna punch you in the face…” Right? Just hit them with it. They are instantly gonna be on the defensive if you forewarn them.

In wrapping this up, this is just a little life lesson I learned, because someone was  able and willing to point it out me. Maybe you do this as well, its never too late to sharpen your self and do better. Understand: if you are educated and have learned more then others, your ideas will probably sound strange to the normal person who is not looking to improve themselves, because chances are it is outside their comfort zone, and or they have not connected the dots that you have, and had the opportunity to learn what you have. But you don’t need to preface your information still.

Some thoughts on life…

While I was contemplating contacting a ex-girl friend, I thought of what would I say to try to capture her heart, well I never contacted her with the thoughts, but this is kind of what I came up with, and then have did some adding to it:

Life…

Living,

learning,

loving,

loosing,

getting back up, wiping the dust off

falling again, getting back up and wiping the dust off.

It is about failures and success.

It is about growth and triumph.

It has been said dance like no one is watching, I say, dance like you don’t give a sh*t. Dance, cause everyone else sucks too, on the dance floor.

Don’t measure your life by the wealth you create, but by the lives you impact for the better with that wealth that was created, and glorify God in what you do, He was the one who gave you the ability. Don’t forget, you too are just a man, and your life is a breath, if that.

Strive to be better, smarter, faster, bigger, stronger, and more fit. Strive because you only get one shot at this life. When it is done, it is over.

Measure your life by the lives you impact, the people you love, measure life in the friends, and the family you have.

Build people up,

help those who fall,

go all in,

start before your are ready.

Change how you think of failure, not as failing but as a learning opportunity. You don’t fail, you get undesired results.

Cry if your heart is not hard, cause you are in a better place then one who has had this world harden his heart.

Remember: we are all in the sea of life with our boats, tossed by the waters, beaten by the waves. Struggling at the oars, and weathering the storms. One day your ship will fail, you with your boat will go down, and your body will wash up on the shores of eternity. Hopefully it is to an Everlasting Joy, and not an eternal damnation.

Above all, love God, then love people, life has one shot, and one chance, and you are a sum total of decisions, so make them wisely.

 

Wisdom: On dating and cohabitation

This thought that I’m going to write on is neither from science, or experience of my own. Though both would hold the point of view to be true if sought in them. But this idea actually comes from my grandmother, who is in her 90′s. She shared this thought to me in a story from a conversation she had with a man years ago. It was a simple thought, but in all my reading and all my learning I had never heard it, nor had it occurred to me.

The story goes something like this, she was talking to man in Europe and they got on to talking about his relationship. She had asked him if he was married or single, and he said he was dating someone. Then later into the conversation it comes out that he was cohabiting with his girlfriend. If I recall, he was making it sound like a marriage. And my grandmother replied with this thought, when you live with someone it is not like marriage trial, because that person can’t actually be themselves. Because basically they on trial, if they screw up, you will just break up with them. So, it is not like marriage, because they can’t really be themselves and loosen up, they are always on guard.

So, that was kind of how the story went.

I really like my grandmother’s thought, it makes sense. That is wisdom of following God. Living together does no good for those who do it, it is out of God’s plan and path. She is right when she says it puts people on trial, and that they can’t be themselves. See, it is because marriage is not as easily dissolved as say the dating relationship. She also said something like this thought, marriage accepts the person, you can be your self. When you cohabit, you aren’t accepting that person and all their flaws, its a cheap imitation for how great marriage can be.

The [not so] Great Gatsby: What Jay had all wrong…

It’s funny, I finished The Great Gatsby again, and this will be my fourth time watching it and my 3rd time finishing it. I really like the movie. But after reviewing now as many times as I did, I’m very bothered by a few things. Not that these things did not bother me when I first watched it, but you know, you are caught up in the movie and the CGI. It was such a cool movie and they really draw you into the characters. You almost don’t get a chance to think about all that is wrong with the movie! (I bet the book is better though.) I did get the time to think about it and it’s consequences. But now, the questions: What did Jay have all wrong? Well, actually what didn’t he? Lets go through the answers to these questions, and realize reality. Cause Jay in the movie missed it. And in his grand vision and hope, he paid a big price. But what does the world care now? Much of the world behaves like Jay, they take what they want, they lie, cheat, and steal what is not theirs, they completely disregard the laws of God. Then praise those who do the same thing.

First, Jay, though a likable person in the movie, and someone we all feel bad for in the end, is probably, well actually for surely, someone we do not want to feel sorry for. Why? Let’s start with this, he is a bootlegger and working for a mob gambling type of man, that is how he made all of his money. Would we respect a modern day criminal like Bernie Madeoff? No. He made off with a bunch of peoples money. Then why in a movie do we become entranced and find ourselves rooting for a bad guy at the end, and feeling sorry for him? Don’t get me wrong, the antagonist Tom is no better. It’s cause people are seduced by the movie, it leads people down the wrong path, glamorizing adultery, and immorality. It is what the devil does.

Two, Jay is in love with another man’s wife, but why is he in love? Well from the movie it looks like he gave his heart away when he fornicated with Daisy before he left for the war. Then she stuck with him, he never moved on, and worked the rest of his life to get her and impress her. So much so he did the wrong things to get her. Think about it like this, he is a pathetic man, he built his life around this one woman and a night they had. He gave his heart away and it drove him mad and was ultimately his down fall. What a pathetic man to let a woman run his life this much that could not ever break himself from her to be a respectable man. Don’t get me wrong I understand love is a powerful force, but so is reason and wisdom. Jay abandon both of the latter. But no one says that, well I do.

Three, like the second, but worse, Jay is in love with a married woman, and is trying to take her away from her husband. So, last I recalled… sleeping with another man’s wife is, well… Adultery. Even if the husband sucks, it is still wrong and a sin. Can we agree on that? But what does the movie make him, they make him to be like a hero, saving Daisy, from her shi**y life. But in the end, the corruption is so thick on both sides that three people die because of infidelity, that is the lesson from the movie, not the green light, and Gatsby’s great hope. The lesson is don’t mess with others spouses. In the movie the sadness is the delusion that when you break the bond of marriage nothing is going to happen. Well something happened, and three people died because of it. Now it could be argued that if Tom took better care of his wife, this whole mess might of not happened, Jay would of not been able to woo her away. And Meryl or Mertyl (whatever her name is), would of not died cause she would of not been in a adulterous relationship, and because of the relationship she would not been so distraught that she would of not ran in front of the car and got slaughtered. Then her husband would of not took revenge on Jay, therefore stopping a lot of what could of happened.

Moving on in the point in regards to the adulterous relationship with Jay and Tom and the irony of it all. Now remember Tom took revenge on Jay through the husband of Meryl, and the husband took revenge on who he thought was Meryl’s adulterer. It is a bit twisted but both husbands took revenge, though one took it on the wrong person. Here is the kicker, see what the Bible says:

Proverbs 6:29-35 (American Standard Version)

29 So he that goeth in to his neighbor’s wife; Whosoever toucheth her shall not be unpunished.30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal To satisfy himself when he is hungry: 31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; He shall give all the substance of his house. 32 He that committeth adultery with a woman is void of understanding: He doeth it who would destroy his own soul. 33 Wounds and dishonor shall he get; And his reproach shall not be wiped away. 34For jealousy is the rage of a man; And he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35 He will not regard any ransom; Neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.

 

In wrapping this up, there is a few lessons, or kind of one lesson from this movie we can take home. One do not get involved with a married woman, at all. Better and wiser, don’t get involved sexually with any woman that you are not married to. Because the consequences are real. I think this movie down plays the adultery, well I know they do. But that is the lesson. Also see this, the movie makes Jay to be some kind of hero and Tom and his wife are the bad guys. I think they are all bad guys. I don’t feel bad for Jay (I mean in real life someone dying is not good, and dying with out Jesus is the worst, no matter how bad they are), he dug his own grave. I leave you this, don’t build a dream around a woman that you commit sexually immorality with, that is the beginning of where Jay went wrong, he let his heart go, and never got it back. It was his undoing. Learn this lesson: control your heart with women, men, and  women with men, you will incur pain if you don’t. And it sucks.

 

Bible reference:

http://www.biblestudytools.com/asv/proverbs/passage.aspx?q=proverbs+6:29-35

 

Use the verse about the husband taking revenge, and how tom took revenge on Jay through Meryl husband.